Monday, November 21, 2011

Dear Doug,


I promise here and now to never call you "Husband" [once I'm allowed to ;)] on this blog
as in "Husband and I went to the creperie" 
or "isn't Husband cute doing that cute thing he's doing"
or anything like that

I think the blogworld has reached its limit on women who do that
.... in fact its wayyyy past capacity

I do reserve the right to say things in the realm of "my [husband] is the best [husband] out there"
or something of the like
but I won't attach the word to you as if its your name - like your a piece of meat :P
I can think of way better names like HamBone, or Rip Steak Face, 
or Gristle McThornbody, or Brave Brick'o'Meat..... oooooooh, these actually
 make you sound like a piece of meat...

You get it Doug, you got a name and I intend to use it!

Love, Lucia 

ps: Thanksgiving break can't come fast enough - I will take up my sister's offer and 
catch the 6:45am bus down to StL just so I don't have to be here any longer

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Introducing from Dr. Pepper: Sexism!


Huh.... here I was yesterday watching hulu and multitasking like a beast - when I was slapped in the face by an ad from my most favorite soda - Dr. Pepper - for their new drink Dr. Pepper 10. Don't get me wrong, I like the Old Spice commercials and that one with the guy beating up a squid or something - but this is on a completely different level - because it's offensive

I'll lay out some of the typical responses to this:

1) "It's just a joke"

Which is what 'women suck, brutish manly men are awesome'??? 
I don't get the joke.... sue me

2) "Secret brand deodorant ads and tampon commercials are just for women - you don't see men getting all uppity about that"

Yes everyone, women NEED these things, no one NEEDS soda, there's not even anything in this drink that makes it "Male Specific." Tampons aren't some awesome product that companies decided to 'aim heavily towards women' like this new soda is - tampons are ACTUALLY ONLY FOR WOMEN

3) "What's SOOO bad about it?"

Oh I don't know, let's replace 'Not for Women' with something like 'Not for Asians' or 'Not for the Handicapped' - because that is equally as ridiculous and offensive as those specifications are - again there are no ingredients that make this bad or harmful to other groups - this is just advertising at its worst, playing to the Group Think or Mop Mentality of men, giving them a "Gentlemen's Club" to be 'manly' in, alienate others and joke about how silly women are....... 

4) "Perhaps the campaign is trying to entice you as a woman to try the product, as a way to 'stick it to 'em'"

- I didn't play baseball for ten years because someone told 
me I couldn't because of my gender - I just did
- I don't like action movies because I've been told I'm not 
supposed to - I just do
- Everything I am - whether it's masculine or feminine is 
because I JUST AM - not because someone told me I 
had to or couldn't

While I'm sure putting up barriers for women make them want to break them down - but why do we have to put them up in the first place? Why not just let men and women do what they want and what they can - without attaching a certain stigma to everything

Those who are brave break the "gender rules" every single day - I'd like to just see 
no more gender rules - what good do they do?

I think this petition sums up things far better than I can:
[feel free to sign it if you'd like]


"Why This Is Important"
To appeal to men, Dr Pepper Ten completely revamped their marketing strategy from Diet Dr Pepper. Dr Pepper Ten has calories and sugar unlike its diet counterpart. Instead of the “dainty tan bubbles” on the diet can, Ten will be wrapped in gunmetal grey packaging with silver bullets. And while Diet Dr Pepper's marketing is women-friendly, the ad campaign for Ten goes out of its way to alienate and denigrate women.
For instance, there's a Dr Pepper Ten Facebook page for men only. I had to create a new Facebook page indicating I’m a guy to even view the content. It includes games and videos aimed at being "manly." There's a “manly shooting gallery” where men have “23 seconds to take out all the girlie stuff” with the directions of, “If it’s girlie shoot it – if it’s manly avoid it.” There’s a gun scope view on a pair of red high heels and then “girlie” items like lipstick, flowers, rainbows and unicorns flash by cowboy hats, hammers and little plastic toy soldiers. I purposely didn’t shoot anything to see how the game ended. I was confronted with a message; “This shooting gallery is no place for a woman like you.”
There’s also a “Man-cronym” section that allows male users to create female bashing acronyms on “manly” type words such as Golf – Guys Outside Lady Free by Andrew V. According to Ryan S Bold stands for Boycott Old Lady Drinks and Manly stands for Men Acting Nobly Ladies Yawn.
TV commercials are heavy on the machismo, too including one spot that shows muscular men in the jungle battling snakes and bad guys. "Hey ladies. Enjoying the film? Of course not. Because this is our movie and this is our soda," a manly man says as he attempts to pour the soda into a glass during a bumpy ATV ride. "You can keep the romantic comedies and lady drinks. We're good."
Jim Trebilcock, executive vice president of marketing for Dr Pepper, said he's not worried about offending women with the campaign. The drink and marketing were tested in six different markets across the country before being rolled out nationally, and women weren't offended, he said. Jim Trebilcock states 40% of people who have tried the soda so far are women.
"Women get the joke," he said. "'Is this really for men or really for women?' is a way to start the conversation that can spread and get people engaged in the product."
In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner. That's an average of three women every day. Of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner. According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year. According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, which includes crimes that were not reported to the police, 232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006. That's more than 600 women every day. Other estimates, such as those generated by the FBI, are much lower because they rely on data from law enforcement agencies. A significant number of crimes are never even reported for reasons that include the victim's feeling that nothing can/will be done. According to the Family Violence Prevention Fund, "growing up in a violent home may be a terrifying and traumatic experience that can affect every aspect of a child's life, growth and development. . . . children who have been exposed to family violence suffer symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder. In addition, women who experience physical abuse as children are at a greater risk of victimization as adults, and men have a far greater (more than double) likelihood of perpetrating abuse.
Advertising such as this only further exploits and demeans women – as the Facebook app does not allow women to view, the “games” are all aimed and shooting and destroying anything relating to women, and the campaign’s messaging overall speaks to degrade women. There is no different between Dr Pepper’s Ten marketing campaign messaging and the Milk Board’s Everything I Do Is Wrong Campaign. Both ad campaigns are equally sexist. The only thing this type of misogynistic messaging does – it further the divide between men and women.

....Violence, division and gender parochialism
This is not ok, we can't do this anymore

I'm honestly done drinking anything from Dr. Pepper and its affiliates - I can drink water 
when I go out - how healthy and 'girly' that is of me.....

[sorry this was long winded - but this stuff needs to be out there - no more group think!]

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Last night....

After my nth time eating Taco Bell for supper when I came down to StL
I asked Doug if he thinks I'll ever stop loving my most favorite restaurant 


He says yes
I say... he's WRONG!!!

We probably have a good 80+ years to find out who's right :)

Friday, November 4, 2011

Sneaky Peekies

These are from our "Engagement Photo Sesh" with our good friend 
Brett Banning
[future famous graphic designer slash photographer slash editor]

I realized two things during this day:
1) I don't like taking pictures [clearly]
2) I don't like being PDA-ey.....

These are both two VERY important and necessary traits to have while taking engagement photos
and for that I apologize for the following........ how 'bout just look at Doug - he looks smashing :)
Here's a couple:


[no, I am not 3 ft short and no, Doug is not 7 ft tall - though this does make Lord of the Rings' trick photography make a lot more sense to me....]


Ha! This picture's called: "We're Serious!"
and was followed by me cracking up or making a face....

Soooo, Doug is way better at all this than I am
Brett is REALLY good at making pictures look cool - they looked super lame before he got 
his hands on them. He made a little magic with a typical digital camera, genius.
I need to learn how to take a schmoopy photo. I need some more, what's it called, Maturity!

WELL DONE YOU BRETT!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH

3 Month Countdown!

{sorry for the lousy quality - can't find my camera!}

[this is one of our magnet save the dates that we painted on ourselves one day - they're all different ..... we hope to get them out to everyone before the invitations go out - finger's crossed]

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Someday...

I'd like us to have one of those big, sturdy, rugged, wooden tables


{source}



And have candlelit dinners on them - rustic ones

With a wooden bench on one side...

And high back chairs on the other [I may or may not have stolen the idea from my future Auntie Peggy.... but I don't think she'll mind :)]

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Na Na Na Na NaNa, You Say It's Your Birthday!

It's my Maid-of-Honor's B-day today!!!!!

Ain't she pretty? I'm well aware that I am going to be TOTALLY upstaged by all my beautiful bridesmaids and handsome bride's men - but I'm ok with that :)


Miss Annie is not only a stone cold fox - she's also been my roomie twice, in fact she was my FIRST ever roommate in the house [dorm] that I live in still [Howard Mouse Fo' Life!]
Annie is a dear, she's sweet, she's funny, she's so darn lovable and she's the best listener/advice giver ever - so clear-headed and mature - but also immature at the best times ;)

I'll never forget 
~ her crazy wrestling fights with Brittany going on either in our room or loudly in the hallway - I always felt so helpless, watching her get dominated like that [I hear she's making a comeback these days :) we shall see during wedding times]
~ how she was always willing to watch a show with me instead of doing homework [our grades may or may not have suffered....]
~ how she dealt smashingly with me during my most emotional and dramatic outbursts during college
~ how she inspired me to actually get ready for school - rather than just roll out of bed - essentially Annie taught me how to be a girl - in the best sense
~ she's the Southern softy to my Northern hardness [must be the cold...]
and ~ she likes tea dates just as much as me [cause like Carolyn and I - she's a lady!]

[with our oh so beautiful RC at the time!]

Annie is one of those people I'm so grateful to have known and can't imagine college life 
[and now life in general!] without her

It was a tough time thinking of who the heck would be my MOH [I can call it that right??] along with my sister Monica - the Matron of Honor [married!] 
I love all my friends so much it felt weird picking "a favorite"- but I had to stop thinking of it like that - once I made a list of the qualities I wanted this girl to express 
it became very clearly - Annie

Annie - I love you have a fabulous birthday and week 
[I believe b-days should last a week, maybe even month - heck I call "November" my birthday] 
I hope it goes something like this:


Love Always, Lucia :)